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After the camping accident that killed her mother and injured her father, Emma feels it is her responsibility alone to take care of her surviving family, particularly as she feels guilty of inadvertently causing the accident. Emma devotes her life to caring for her father and acting like a mother to her younger sister, so much so that it often gets in the way of her living out her dreams and taking chances on herself. Charlie criticizes her for not taking chances in her career or pursuing opportunities like a prestigious internship she was offered, yet Emma was unable to do these things because she was taking care of her father. It takes a lot of convincing from her father and Sylvie to make Emma go to LA for what they see as one of the biggest opportunities of her lifetime. Even so, Emma argues that Sylvie should not give up her dreams to help her sister. To this idea, Sylvie responds, “You hear yourself, right?” (18), knowing how many opportunities Emma has given up for her.
Emma’s commitment to caregiving leads her to overlook self-care. Emma feels such guilt and anxiety about leaving her father in Sylvie’s care when she goes to LA that she forgets to eat for two days, leading her to faint when she arrives at Charlie’s house. When Charlie takes care of her after this, she mentions, “How long had it been since anyone had taken care of me in any situation? [...] I’d forgotten what it felt like to be looked after” (54). Perhaps the most pivotal moment of the novel comes when Emma finally admits to herself and Sylvie how much of an impact caregiving for their father has made on her life. On the call when she discovers Sylvie left their father to go to the beach, Emma berates her for taking any time for herself, telling Sylvie, “You get a few tiny, broken pieces of what you thought you wanted and you tell yourself over and over it’s more than enough!” (225).
Emma lets her role as a caregiver consume her life, and though she recognizes this, she is not willing to change it until the very end of the novel. Charlie knows how much Emma puts others before herself and how much this has held her back. Charlie is aware that Emma cannot strike a balance between her duties to her father and the life she wants to live, and because of this, he doesn’t tell her when he is diagnosed with cancer. In the video he makes for Emma to watch after his death, Charlie says, “I’ll never tell you about any of this. [...] And you know why—and you know I’m right. If I don’t, you’ll take care of me just like you did with your dad—and I refuse to be another thing that stops you” (254). Though Charlie knows her total commitment to caregiving without taking chances in her own life is not necessary, he also knows that nothing will sway Emma from this belief. However, toward the novel’s end, Emma rethinks what she has been doing with her life and how she can let herself rely on others for help. When she finds a balance between caring for her family and caring for herself in the epilogue—letting Sylvie and Mrs. Otsuka take on some of the burden of caring for her father and treating Sylvie like a competent adult—Emma recognizes the benefits of putting herself first from time to time.
Center uses selective truth telling as a way to reflect her characters’ coping strategies and vulnerabilities; it also reflects the anticipation that she believes is central to romance novels. Throughout the novel, Emma grapples with her place as a narrator and what she should tell her audience, particularly when explaining the family tragedy that killed her mother and left her father partially paralyzed. When she first mentions the accident, she notes, “That’s the long story short. I’m leaving out a lot here. I’m leaving out the worst part, in fact. But that’s enough for now” (15), showing that Emma cannot give words to her guilt. Like Center, Emma is a storyteller who knows the value of suspense. She tells Charlie about “information gaps” and how they help move a story forward. As she tells the stories of her own tragedies as a narrator, she paces them to build suspense, but as a character, she also does not want to dwell on the information that is painful to her. For example, when her father is hospitalized, Emma tells her audience, “My father didn't die. Maybe that's a spoiler—but we've all been through a lot so far. If you were anywhere near as worried as I was, I thought you might need some good news as soon as possible” (232).
For both Emma and Charlie, the selective revealing and concealing of aspects of their stories allows them to hide their vulnerabilities yet prevents them from becoming closer. Emma controls how she reveals the details of the accident both to the reader and to Charlie, and that control reflects how deeply she has buried her guilt. After the camping accident, Emma falls into believing a narrative that the accident was her fault and that she should, therefore, be responsible for all of the consequences, including devoting her life to caring for her father and Sylvie rather than pursuing her dreams. It is only when she leaves the day-to-day responsibilities of caregiving that she reveals more aspects of that narrative to the reader and then to Charlie. Further, it is only when she faces a situation she cannot control—when Charlie’s car is stuck on a hilltop ledge—that her selective truth telling gives way to complete honesty. This honesty is a pivotal moment for her character, and her vulnerability brings her closer to Charlie.
Charlie uses selective truth telling to hide not guilt but fear. When he is afraid, he pretends not to care, denying rather than hiding the truth of how he feels. He does this to hide his fear and hurt and protect those he cares about by sparing the hurt of future loss. His fears are real: He already lost his first wife over his cancer diagnosis, and her departure hurt him very much. His concerns are also real: He knows that if he lets Emma into his life as his partner, she may well again find herself a caregiver at best or a grieving lover at worst. Because he never tells Emma about his (misdiagnosed) relapse, she doesn’t know what he’s hiding. This omission creates a barrier between them until the climax, where all is revealed when Logan shares the video, and Emma rushes into the awards ceremony.
As Emma points out, living is “all about writing the very best story of your life. Not just how you live it—but how you choose to tell it” (270). By the end of the novel, the two storytellers have learned that storytelling in life ultimately involves truth-telling, and telling stories in an open way allows them to forge a path forward together.
Throughout the novel, Charlie and Emma debate the nature of love and whether it is something that exists at all. Emma is confident that love exists, and she considers it to be one of the most important feelings a person can have. This links to her love of romance stories and her argument that “we look for answers in stories” (76), so her love of love heavily influences her writing. Charlie, however, tells Emma that he cannot feel love and wonders if there is something wrong with him because of it. Emma describes the sensory memory of love by saying, “It feels like your heart is glowing” (158). Meanwhile, Charlie says he can’t feel his heart, but when Emma is near, he describes feeling his heart slamming into his chest like a bird trying to attack its reflection. This difference in their beliefs creates creative tension between Emma and Charlie, as both agree that they should only write something meaningful. While Emma knows their rom-com screenplay can be meaningful and worthwhile to write, she criticizes Charlie for thinking otherwise, asking him, “Do you really think that love doesn’t exist? Or are you just saying dialogue that sounds good?” (149).
Though Charlie acts like he doesn’t care about love, Emma learns throughout the novel that “when Charlie Yates is scared of something, he pretends it doesn’t matter” (94), suggesting that he might be afraid of falling in love, especially he was previously hurt so deeply by his ex-wife. Emma’s surmise is revealed to be true at the end when Charlie gives a speech about what he has learned about love from Emma. He admits, “It hurts so much, we’d rather never get our hopes up. And it’s humiliating, too—right? How foolish are you to hope for the best?” (257), sharing his fears about falling in love and being disappointed. In the epilogue, Emma’s father describes love as “something you can learn [...] something you can practice. It’s something you can choose to get good at” (269). This quote reflects Charlie’s journey to discovering the existence of love and falling in love with Emma, yet it also shows how love is both extraordinary and plausible. Love is the emotion at the center of The Rom-Commers, and Emma’s advocacy for it ultimately shows Charlie that it does exist and is worthwhile to pursue, allowing them to confront these ideas in their screenplay.
By Katherine Center